It’s OK, you can answer that question in the privacy of your own computer!
And actually it’s quite a common feeling.
Maybe you’re somewhere unfamiliar and are acting like a fish out of water.
Whatever the reason, the good news is that it’s perfectly possible to overcome the feeling!
A lot of people feel awkward at social events, so I’m going to concentrate on getting over those feelings at this kind of (often unavoidable) event.
Start by arriving early. Rather than fashionably late. That way you have a lot less seemingly cliquey conversations to break into and there’s a good chance that other people will introduce themselves to you. For some people, that can be the difference between feeling out of place and feeling at least OK about the situation.
Steer clear of the usual hot topics – politics, sport, religion, that kind of thing. They tend to bring out strong feelings in people and are best avoided in anything other than a one-to-one conversation with someone you know really well. Stick to safer subjects. Weather (if you’re British, like me), recent news, upcoming events, etc. But try to avoid in-speak if possible, especially if it’s a company event where you don’t want to be seen as too corporate and boring.
Smile. Even if it’s a bit forced at first. Smiling people – or at the very least, non grimacing people – are more approachable. Think for yourself who you’d prefer to approach and do your best to modify your outlook and demeanour to get closer to that rather than looking unapproachable.
Practice elsewhere first. Some situations are perfect for this – cashiers in shops are my favourite target! Apart from anything else, they tend to appreciate being recognised but there are also several other pluses to this kind of situation, the biggest of which is that it’s guaranteed to be over fast regardless of how well or badly it goes. There are usually other customers behind in the queue or who arrive to pay for their goods. So there’s an excuse for both sides to end the conversation. But it’s excellent, near enough risk free, practice. And if you’re still nervous about the idea, just go a few blocks away from normal so you’ll never have to go back to that shop again if you don’t want to.
All in all, feeling less awkward is actually related to feeling comfortable in yourself. So do your best to relax in those situations where you used to feel out of place.
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Start by arriving early. Rather than fashionably late. That way you have a lot less seemingly cliquey conversations to break into and there’s a good chance that other people will introduce themselves to you. For some people, that can be the difference between feeling out of place and feeling at least OK about the situation.
