How To Let Go of The Past And Move On In a Relationship

There is an old saying that says: “We often hurt those who are dear to us.”

More than this, the experiences that occurred in the past become hurtful in the present when we come into contact with people or certain situations that cause us to remember the hurtful experience.

And if the person who caused the pain is your partner, it can be a constant reminder of the wrongs that he or she has made.

If, however, your partner who betrayed or hurt you has realized their mistake and asks for forgiveness, it is best that you give the opportunity for them to make amends without you interrogating, hovering and mistrusting their every move.

This is not an easy thing as our brain clings to the past as a method of protection and safety.

This mechanism of protection can backfire.

There are some things that you can put into practice that will help you put your past behind you and move forward in your relationship.

The first thing you will have to do is process your emotions.

Denying and suppressing emotions is not such a good idea since the pains of past experiences tend to sneak up on you.

To avoid this, you could have a conversation with yourself or even try keeping a journal as a method of expressing yourself.

This will release all the emotions of hurt that was pent up in you and leave you free and lighter to live the present and enjoy your current relationship.

After confronting the past, it is important to ensure that you stay in the present and not let your mind wander off to the past too often.

Concentrate on your current life and focus on feelings such forgiveness, compassion and love for your spouse or loved one.

Last but not least, it is important to set and make clear your intentions.

This refers to how you want to relate with your spouse.

Do you want to come across as loving, kind, humorous, trusting or strong to your partner?

Ask yourself this whenever a situation presents itself and you are about to face it with fear, judgment, or negativity.

Hopefully these suggestions will go a long way to helping you let go of your past and move on in your relationship.