It is a known fact: women are more tolerant than men and they forgive more easily. They tend to forgive more easily than men.
However, it is not all women who can do this.
At the same time not all men are unforgiving.
Nonetheless, trust is lost as well as confidence.
It is hard to feel confident around other potential partners and even your friends when you have been cheated on.
Here are three tips to help your regain this confidence:
Take stock of your personal achievements
There is nothing as motivating as what you have achieved in life. If you end the relationship with the cheater, you should not spend your precious time thinking about that relationship.
You can think about other relationships that were better. Doing this, will help you see that you can do some things on your own. It will also give you a starting point to rebuild your life.
Do not look down on yourself
When someone cheats on you it is very likely that you will start doing calculations to figure out where you went wrong. It is important to know that you are not the one who went wrong- the cheater did. Do not think of yourself a not being good enough.
Looking down on yourself will only serve to downgrade you. People see what you see in yourself. So if you see yourself as being the best there is, that is what people are going to see. When you start seeing yourself as the person who was cheated on, you are likely to portray this to other people.
Talk to someone about it
Women can easily talk about their feelings when they have been cheated on.
Men find it really difficult to do so.
A nice talk with a person who allows you to be you will prove to be really helpful in your endeavor to rebuild your confidents after being cheated on. If you cannot find a friend to talk to, a counselor will also work. Bottling up your feelings will only serve to make your feel worse.
